Quitting/putting collecting on pause

Alt said:
One of my social hacks I used to use once I learned it made people open up or "like" me was playing dumb.

Just Cady Heron in math class with Aaron as they regale me with their expertise in Final Fantasy or X-Men.

Wrong.

No.

Not the first appearance

The limit break does not exist.

But I never really cared about correcting because to me I was just happy these people liked the thing. And then I would kind of shuffle in my own expertise and even figure out what kind of foil I should be for this person. Maybe that's masking. I never figured it out.

But that gets really old once you realize most people don't know what the hell they're talking about, and especially when the people who don't know what the hell they're talking about, act like they are the authority figure and use that as leverage against the people they deem lesser.

That I can't abide by.

I remember even in high school the same nerds that would complain that women didn't read comic books or like cartoons, as soon as we met one, instead of welcoming, it would just be this big gatekeeping checkpoint which eventually led to ridiculing and ostracizing.

And then without self-awareness they would wonder how come women didn't share these interests.

As example.
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This is a good point, and something that I've found myself adopting over the years as well. I don't think I was ever insufferable about it (but who knows), but I was definitely that kid that corrected people when they got nerdy facts wrong. It was never out of gatekeeping or "holier-than-thou", it was because I genuinely loved the thing and wanted to connect with someone on it and get them to love it and see it like I did.

As I've gotten older, I realized that it really doesn't matter if they get it wrong or not. The average joe doesn't care about or find it charming when you go Full Nerd on them- they see it as belittling or weird. Every now and then, if someone is still like waaaay off the mark, I may correct them, but thankfully I've learned more subtle or conversational ways of doing so. A lot of times, it comes down to interpretation, and I do genuinely love hearing why or how they got to the conclusion they did, especially if it helps me look at the thing in a new light. Unless they're just really dumb and it's a matter of media illiteracy, but that's a whole other discussion.

My favorite thing, rare as it may be, is when a nerd tries to belittle or one-up a woman in conversation and gets their ass handed to them. Ultimately, we all have our "thing" that we know more about than others, but it's all relative. Put your average nerd in a room with a bunch of sports bros and they're the odd man out. It really doesn't matter one way or the other what "level" fan a person is- what matters is that this thing you love spoke to someone else and gave you something to connect over.

I'll never understand the folks in the collecting world who gatekeep like that. Like....okay? You have more pieces of plastic or cardboard than me, so what? You were more irresponsible with your money, yay for you! Or, considering how much of it comes down to shoddy distribution and pure luck, that doesn't mean you're "better" than me. Especially when you employ a handful of your little lackeys to go track things down for you. That's not impressive. When I was a lot younger, I used to look at guys like that like they were super cool, but now I just go full Bane in that scene with Ben Mendelsohn- "And this gives you power over me?"

My boyfriend keeps trying to get me to join Reddit, and I just have no desire to. Every time I go on it just reminds me why I don't. It's confusing to use/look at, and just full of the worst people with the worst takes.
 
The older I get the easier it is for me to see things online that would have once got a reaction out of me and just pass on by. Especially when so much of social media is centered around getting a reaction, be it positive or negative.
 
I like to think that I'm smart enough now to tell when someone is genuinely curious or unsure of something, and when they're just trying to get a reaction out of me. I used to respond anyway, just to call them out or try to put them in their place, but I learned very quickly it's a fruitless endeavor. Like all the people I see nowadays wearing MAGA hats or Trump shirts in public (in NY of all places). They want a reaction from you, so the worst thing you can do to them is to just ignore them.
 
RicksNerdLife said:
Psh.

I still have empty shelves that don't have Tiny Toons, Freakzoid, Eek the Cat, Road Rovers, Doug, or Bobby's World action figures on them.

No one knows my pain.
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Duuuude...Tiny Toons would be epic, I haven't thought about that show in quite a while. Man, yeah lol

Doug and Rocco's Modern Life would be outstanding as well. Until recently I would have had Ducktales on here - it's criminal we don't have an articulated Gizmoduck yet - but I think Neca just announced them? Or showed them. Can't wait for those.
 
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